Battery Powered Humans

Human beings are like batteries. We charge ourselves, we carry out our tasks, we deplete our energy, and the cycle begins anew. What differs is the types of batteries we are, how quickly our energy runs dry, and what we can do to recharge ourselves.

Obviously we’re not really batteries, and, as any Matrix fan will tell you, we wouldn’t be very good batteries either, at least when it comes to powering something else. Processors maybe, but not batteries… Anyway, that’s a different tangent. Using the battery analogy, the thing that has always interested me though is how we go about recharging.

I may have written about this before, so forgive me if I’m retracing old steps, but it’s come up a bit in conversation really and I feel compelled to write about it. I want to discuss the differences between being an Introvert vs Extrovert.

Many people, myself previously included, think about the terms in pure black and white. Introverts spend time alone, they’re not very social, they prefer to read, watch tv, or hibernate, over going out into the open world and partying, meeting people, or spending time at functions. The Extrovert is, therefore, the polar opposite, they’re confident and chatty, they love just going out there and meeting anyone and everyone, they’ll talk to strangers, they’ll be the life and soul of any event they attend. The world is never so black and white though, and when coming to define ourselves we may often err on the side of one, but it’s unusual that someone is completely in one camp over the other.

This is where recharging comes into it. A few years back I read an eyeopening article that completely changed how I viewed the Introvert vs Extrovert debate. I’m quite introverted, I enjoy spending time to myself, but I also enjoy seeing my friends, going to the pub or having board game nights. That puts me into somewhat of a grey area. What the article did though, is help me realise I don’t have to be in one camp instead of the other, I just had to realise that one camp is where I recharge, whilst the other is where I expend energy.

See, I could spend all day playing video games, honestly I could. I’ve been known to wake up on a day off and just game all day until bedtime, that’s sometimes 16+ hours worth of gaming I could happily do. This is because being alone, having some time to just game, isn’t exhausting for me and doesn’t expend much energy. I’m not even talking physical energy, as obviously being on my ass all day isn’t exhausting in that respect, I mean mentally and emotionally. Now I also enjoy seeing people, my friends and family, but if you put me with them for 16+ hours I’d be drained. As an opposite, I have friends who could happily do something with someone every single day, whereas if they spend too much time on their own they start crawling at the wallpaper. I used to just think they were awful at entertaining themselves, “how could you not enjoy your alone time?” Well, the fact is that they actually do enjoy it, but it’s exhausting for them. Introverts expend energy in social situations, Extroverts recharge. Extroverts expend energy when entertaining themselves, Introverts recharge. It’s really that simple.

The beauty of this theory is that it covers that grey area nicely and it doesn’t limit how we view ourselves. Both types of people can enjoy both sides of the fence, but they only do so for so long before they need to take a break. I think we all understand the importance of needing a break sometimes. If I have a busy week at work, then a weekend full of plans with family and friends, I no longer feel guilty for planning in some alone time; some recharge time.

Hopefully this has helped you to define the lose terms ‘Introvert’ and ‘Extrovert’. What about you? Where would you place yourself? Let me know in the comments below!

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42 thoughts on “Battery Powered Humans

  1. I’ve always seen myself as being both almost at the same. I’m very sociable & I do feed off of socialising, but equally I need my alone time and I love it immensely. After reading your post, I can’t decide if I’m more introverted or extroverted. I seem to recharge in both circumstances. Maybe I’m equally 50/50?

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    1. That’s certainly a possibility I reckon! I reckon any ratio is possible, the world is that unique and varied. It might be the best way to be, as you can recharge in both camps when you’ve had enough of either of them… πŸ™‚

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  2. I really like that idea…that we operate in both camps but one place is for recharging…I get exhausted with people , some of that is my bad hearing as hearing takes a lot of effort(and maybe if I didn’t have bad hearing I would be an extrovert but that’s another topic) but like you I need to connect with people and get out and about…but I always spend time alone if I need to rebuild myself…good post, thanks.

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  3. I’m definitely in both camps. I can chat and interact with people all day at work, I can go to the occasional party (don’t ask me to too many – I won’t go) but I also need my quiet time. Be it soaking in the bath reading, or driving in my car alone listening to music.
    I have a friend who is a total extrovert. She loves being out in the world, loves having people over at her house. She’s a bloody nightmare!

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  4. angelanoelauthor

    I’ve struggled with the black and white terms, too. Recently, I came upon the term “ambivert” and that describes me best. I love people. I enjoy conversations and the lively bits of being in groups together–but not all the time. I enjoy being alone and having only my own thoughts to think and no one else around–but not all the time. Ambiverts are confusing for other people. Most people think I’m very extroverted, and I always shake my head–because that doesn’t feel right to me. But I’m not introverted either. I’m so curious about people, even if I felt a little shy to engage, I still would. I can be hard to read, because people will assume I can’t wait to go to a party, when really I need to be alone. Aren’t we all just living somewhere in the grey? πŸ™‚ Anyway, here’s a link to an article on ambiverts if you’re interested! https://www.learning-mind.com/what-is-an-ambivert-and-how-to-find-out-if-you-are-one/

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    1. Hey Angela. I just happened upon your reply and gave it a quick read. Have you taken the Myers-Briggs personality test? The reason I ask is because you sound alot like an INFJ. I am one…and we’re very rare. ❀ We're deeply empathetic and the reason we're interested in other people so much is because we care about them and the human condition. πŸ™‚ If you get a few minutes, take the test. I'd be curious if I'm right. πŸ™‚

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      1. We did the Myers-Briggs when I was studying Psychology, I can’t remember my acronym but I remember it being uncommon, keep meaning to do it again but it’s such a long questionnaire haha… Wonder where I fall now though!

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    2. This sounds exactly like me! I’m often the person who organises group events, hosts people round here, gets plans in motion but boy do I need my chill out time to just relax… Whenever I say I’m shy, people think I’m joking or that I’m simply wrong about myself… Crazy really! We’re definitely all grey!

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  5. I am an introvert and didn’t know it until I learned what you have written about – the context of recharging. I need to be alone and have quiet time to recharge, but enjoy being with people and socializing. I didn’t realize the distinction until I read the book “Quiet.” It is an interesting book about introverts and the differences between them and extroverts. Have you read it?

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  6. I am in the same I need to have time alone and do not enjoy crowds, love more one to one or a foursome for great conversations. I and the squire are very self-contained which makes housesitting a perfect lifestyle for us, as we meet many new people, have short bursts of human contact. Of course, we love talking and socialising as much as time alone.

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  7. I was thinking about this the other day as I was travelling alone for a few days, I had always thought of myself as an introvert and I still do, but I still don’t like travelling alone too much because after a few days I get a bit bored and am too shy to make new friends! But yes I think it’s better to think in terms of energy for sure!

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    1. This is what I’ve started to learn, I’ve always called myself an introvert, said I’m too shy to make friends, but I’ve learnt nobody is fully one way or the other… I’d be nothing without my time spent with friends too πŸ™‚

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  8. Very interesting way to look at it. I am definitely introverted. I’m absolutely fine being alone. I’m not a fan of big crowds and I feel a bit overwhelmed when I’m at a social function. It’s not as though I have trouble socializing and don’t enjoy it. I just need to go away for a bit afterward, and sort of shut everything out. This recharge theory makes perfect sense to me.

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    1. Thanks, Christine! I am much the same! I hated how people seem to think you can only do one, or the other, when really its that you can do both but one is just that little harder. Give my lone time anytime, haha, but I’ll still socialise when I need to πŸ™‚

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